"I am unique"

Romantics have sensitive feelings and are warm and perceptive.

How to Get Along with Me

• Give me plenty of compliments. They mean a lot to me.



• Be a supportive friend or partner. Help me to learn to love and value
  myself.



• Respect me for my special gifts of intuition and vision.



• Though I don't always want to be cheered up when I'm feeling melancholy,
  I sometimes like to have someone lighten me up a little.



• Don't tell me I'm too sensitive or that I'm overreacting!

What I Like About Being a Four

• my ability to find meaning in life and to experience feeling at a deep
  level



• my ability to establish warm connections with people



• admiring what is noble, truthful, and beautiful in life



• my creativity, intuition, and sense of humor



• being unique and being seen as unique by others



• having aesthetic sensibilities



• being able to easily pick up the feelings of people around me

What's Hard About Being a Four

• experiencing dark moods of emptiness and despair



• feelings of self-hatred and shame; believing I don't deserve to be loved
  



• feeling guilty when I disappoint people



• feeling hurt or attacked when someone misundertands me



• expecting too much from myself and life



• fearing being abandoned




• obsessing over resentments



• longing for what I don't have

Fours as Children Often

• have active imaginations: play creatively alone or organize playmates in
  original game
  s



• are very sensitive



• feel that they don't fit in



• believe they are missing something that other people have




• attach themselves to idealized teachers, heroes, artists, etc.



• become antiauthoritarian or rebellious when criticized or not understood
  



• feel lonely or abandoned (perhaps as a result of a death or their parents'
  divorce)

Fours as Parents

• help their children become who they really are



• support their children's creativity and originality



• are good at helping their children get in touch with their feelings




• are sometimes overly critical or overly protective



• are usually very good with children if not too self-absorbed

Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele